The homosexuality problem : 7 reasons why people hate gays and lesbians

Lesbian Romancephoto © 2007 Oteo | more info (via: Wylio) Online and in the media, I have seen 2 very passionate groups when it comes to gays and lesbians(for the rest of the article, gays/lesbians/homosexuals would include bisexuals too) – those who support them and those who don’t. I see a lot of passion involved in the debate over whether they are good or bad, whether homosexuality(and bisexuality) is wrong or not.

What I find intriguing is why is this so important to us?

Personally, I don’t have any interest in finding out anyone’s sexual preferences. Even if I come to know that someone I know or work with is homosexual, I don’t see how it affects our working together.

Why do you think this is an important question? I find this difficult to understand. If you feel this is important, do let the rest of us know your reasons in comments below and enlighten us.

Below, I am discussing my ideas about some of the common reasons I have heard why people think homosexuals and/or homosexuality is bad.

1. It is unnatural, against the laws of nature. This is probably the most oft quoted reason. Some feel that heterosex, that can produce babies, is the only natural way to have sex. I wonder how did you come to this conclusion? How do you define ‘natural’?

The way I see it, natural is what comes to someone without force or suggestion, what Maslow would have called a ‘Primary need’. If the drive to have sex with people of the same gender comes to someone, without having been forced into it or told to do so, it is probably natural.

2. God did not make man to be this way. My question to you again is – ‘Are you sure?’ Maybe your religious books say so, but again, were they really written by God? Did God, or Nature, write it in front of your very eyes?

You are just believing in heresay, something you have heard from others. Those others also seem to have heard it from yet others. Most people don’t usually question what their religion and culture tells them, because, as Mahesh Bhatt said in a recent tweet, it will threaten their sense of security.

There is a post I wrote – Does religion really help , you might want to read that.

I have seen that most people, unconciously, have 2 views about what is natural :

Natural is what majority thinks. The search for security often makes people stay with the majority. The parameter of what is true, what is morally right, for most people, is what the majority thinks.

If you think natural is what the majority thinks, I have some food for thought for you –

The majority Christian view a few centuries ago was that Earth is the center of the Universe.

The majority view among Hindu’s till less than a century ago, was that crossing seas is immoral. Gandhi ji was outcasted when he first sailed to England.

Majority view in some parts of the world is that you have to kill those who have different faiths, for a better world.

Natural is what the majority does. In this particular case, some might say that natural is what the majority does. So, since the majority is heterosexual, it must be the natural thing. You have to remember here that the majority also is right handed, that doesn’t make left handed people bad. Majority probably likes sweet foods. That doesn’t make those, who like salty food, bad. Majority probably eats non-vegetarian that doesn’t….

3. Homosexuals are mentally ill, they can cause harm… They might have been abused as children or they are the product of dysfunctional families. Maybe they have a tendency to abuse others. They may be hetro phobic. They fear the opposite sex…

This just sounds like a fearful response to something people are not sure of. We are used to things being a certain way. When something comes up that we can’t understand, the quickest way to feel safe again is to label it as good or bad as soon as possible. I think, to some extent at least, this response also shows a certain amount of envy towards those who are showing the courage to challenge rules that don’t make them happy. To rise and speak out your will, when it goes against the flow of majority, requires courage. Most people know that this is the right way to do things but lack the courage to do it. How many of us question laid down rules when we don’t like them? Ask yourself, did you ever question the ideas of God, religion, marriage, monogamy, national pride etc.?

How do you think gays and lesbians can harm you?

What is the worst that can happen if someone close to you, maybe a friend, turns out to be a gay or a lesbian? Maybe he/she will show interest in you. Won’t you be able to just refuse and carry on? What do you do when someone of the opposite sex shows interest in you and you don’t want to accept? It may feel uncomfortable to you. But then that is a problem YOU have, not them. They are just expressing their feelings politely.

Are you afraid of soicial ridicule and ostracization? Are you afraid what will people say? There are better ways to live than just trying to conform to society, and they don’t necessarily include being constantly at war with it.

Do you think homosexuals are going to jump on you or attack you? That is just paranoia! The same that a lot of people in the Western world once had against Blacks, that high castes in Indian society have had against low castes, that my mother has against escalators…

Ask yourself these questions – How many homosexuals have you really met? How many of them you know closely? How many of them act in a way that shows mentally unstablility, apart from their sexualy preferences? How many of them have been declared by certified doctors as mentally ill? Do you feel so strongly repulsed by other mentally ill people?

4. Aren’t these people the same as other sexual deviants? How are gays and lesbians different from pedophiles, exhibitionists, incestuous couples, rapists, those who have sex with animals? These people offend others, and gays too.

I think the bigger question here is, are these people causing anybody, any kind of harm? Homosexuals are just 2 consenting beings having an act of pleasure between themselves, outside of the knowledge of the rest of the world. Lets analyze the other groups –

Pedophiles – An adult sexually attracted to children. I don’t think having an attraction towards anything or anybody can be wrong. But if a pedophile tries to have sex with children, by the use of coercion/intimidation, it amounts to harm according to me. This is sex without consent. But this is totally different from homosexuals’ consensual acts.

What is the actual age of consent? Can kids consent? How agreement differs from consent? Does a maturity switch just turn on when a kid reaches the age of consent? Do all kids mature at the same rate? These are serious questions and cannot be dealt with in depth here(maybe another article someday).

Exhibitionists – Someone with a compulsive desire to expose the genitals. These people don’t cause any physical harm to anybody. They do something that put people off. Some feel that homosexuals are similar since there acts also put people off.

Here too, there is a difference. The general idea of an exhibitionist is a person who exposes in public without regarding the sentiments of others present. Such Exhibitionists understand that what they do offends people and are still doing it. They don’t care that they are offending others. A healthy society cannot function that way. If they want to do it, and there are others like them, they can have a seperate place designated for them. Nude beaches all over the world are all examples of nudists and exhibitionists getting to do what they want, without offending others.

Homosexuals are different. Maybe some of them don’t care for the sentiments of others. I’ll assume their ratio is just the same as their counterparts in the rest of the society. Not caring about others has nothing to do with sexual preferences. Most homosexuals just want to do their acts privately, with those of similar inclinations. I suppose if no one asks them too many questions, they won’t be too bothered to answer and no one needs to feel offended. It is only when we poke our nose too hard into the lives of othes and ask for explanations, that these things come out in the public.

Incestuous couples – People having sex with thier close relations. All I have to say is, it’s their choice. If they are consenting, I don’t care. It matters to me in no way.

Rapists – If you compare them to homosexuals, it just shows that you are paranoid. Rapists force others into sex AGAINST THEIR WILL! They cause physical harm! Enough said.

People who have sex with animals – Animals can’t give consent verbally. But they still have sex. I think this a personal call. If I find a person forcefully having sex with an animal, if I feel that the animal has not given it’s consent, I will try to save it. If the act seems consentual, I will just pass by.

5. They set bad examples for our kids. How? Just tell your kids they are 2 people who love each other. There is nothing bad in that. That is all that you and your kid need to know. It is no business of yours to imagine about and pass judgement on what goes in their bedroom. They form an example only when we collectively give our attention to their sexual preferences. Just treat them as normal people.

6. Higher rate of a lot of diseases among homosexuals… especially AIDS and various other STDs. This is also an oft quoted reason. This is backed by statistical data. I will not contest that, although I don’t believe that all statistical data is always true. For the sake of this discussion, I will assume it is all correct.

Don’t you think these are more concerns of exercising proper health practices, hygiene and discretion? It seems the homosexual community is showing less regard towards these issues. This may, as some say, be caused by the difficulty they have in finding sexual partners because of the social stigma involved. Probably they tend to disregard health concerns when they find that one rare and willing partner. But then lets be clear here, the problem is lack of concern for health and hygiene. The problem here is also social stigma which is causing this dire state for gays and lesbians. The problem is NOT homosexuality itself.

Is this God’s will? God never seems to come forward and say so.

Aren’t diseases spreading through them in the rest of society? As I said above, what is responsible is here, is lack of good health practices and lack of discretion, NOT homosexuality. To hold homosexuality responsible here is the same as holding electricity responsible when people get electrocuted. People just need to be more careful with their use of electricity.

7. If they adopt kids, it will be difficult for the kid. I know there are kids who grow up with a single parent. I know kids who grow with parents who continually fight among themselves or who abuse their kids. The point is, while having 2 parents of different genders may be a good-to-have, it is not a necessity for good parenting. It is only something that we are used to seeing.

While a mother’s or a father’s love is a unique and beautiful experience, I think love cannot be described as adequate or inadequate. If 2 people of the same sex really loves a child and care for him/her, I don’t see how I can call their love inadequate. There might still be issues of bad parenting, just as their are with regular parents and they should be taken just as any other case of bad parenting. Maybe statistics will show that homosexuals are comparitively bad parents, but then I won’t want statistics to deny genuine people from the beautiful experience of having a child. Love and care for a child is what I would emphasise upon, not the gender of it’s parents.


  • Jacob
    February 23, 2012 - 4:13 am | Permalink

    Thank you for this. I never have anything to say to people who hate me for those reasons- I’m gay.

  • Dylan
    April 17, 2012 - 10:55 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for your great arguments. I’m writing a research paper in my LGBT Anthropology class to argue for equal rights for LGBT people, and the arguments you made are strong and persuasive. I wish all people would read this blog, understand, and open up their minds.

    I’m looking forward to more entries of yours.

  • Kirsten Jolley
    May 14, 2012 - 9:23 pm | Permalink

    Love your views!

  • Jose Diaz
    August 18, 2012 - 9:46 am | Permalink

    I hate it when people talk bad about gays,lesbians,or bisexuals,its just annoying,I tell everyone,just let them be happy,is that too much to ask for?Dont force them to change,how would you like it if someone did it to you?I support love,it doesnt matter if its gay,lesbian,or bi.Im straight,but i dont say anything bad because its not my life,its theirs,let them be.My uncle is gay,and hes pretty cool,i also like hanging out with him and his gay/lesbian friends,they’re nice people.

  • Joel
    October 5, 2012 - 12:05 am | Permalink

    I don’t have anything against gay people I don’t mind them its just when they said they going to let gay people marry in churches wht I never agreed on

    Wht does it say on American dollar “in god we trust” and ur making people marry in a church when it is.wrong in the bible to love the same sex and church is place of peace and worship

  • Mattias Persson
    October 22, 2012 - 9:44 pm | Permalink

    Very intresting thoughts.

    I know some homoeseuxals and bisexuals, I was a “gayhater” in my early teens but just cause I was young and inmature and was learned mopre or less to hate “gays”, I really can’t understand why I should hate 2 persons just cause of their feelings, I mean, is it their fault they feel what they feel? Is it any of my buissnes? And is it my problem??? NO! :)

    // M.

  • Bluewing
    October 29, 2012 - 11:27 am | Permalink

    Just finished reading this article and I must admit that it is no wonder that the worlds morals are declining at an alarming rate. Rahul, your ridiculous views are dismissive and dangerous. The fact that you can even suggest that any sort of sex with animals may be okay as long as you “feel” the animal has given its consent just shows how sick you are and ill equiped to comment on this topic.
    Nature dictates that for a species to be successful, male and female members must get together! So it is fairly obvious that two males/females is not natural, or conducive to continuing the species.
    There are many studies that have shown that homosexuality is not normal and that it can almost, always be linked to mental illness or genetic abnormality.
    The current generation, as well as older generations are more accepting of homosexuality because its not politically correct not to be!
    Your ideas of what is normal and acceptable are very alarming and indicative of the “live and let live” mentallity of the world today. Nearly 7 billion people in the world with dwindling resources and everyone wants to do their own thing regardless of the consequences. How long do you think that is going to work?

    • Jack
      January 16, 2013 - 12:29 am | Permalink

      If you believe that homosexuals are mentally ill then you obviously have not looked into the subject well enough. Yes there have been studies linking homo-sexuality and mental illness however there just as many studies linking heterosexuality with mental illness it totally depends on the personal bias of the Psychologist.Whenever a paper is published a few results “go missing” this is a very well know scientific practice as no study is perfect, this shows you cannot take any one study as gospel. And for genetic “abnormalities” the coding for homosexuality is only as “abnormal” as the allele for brown hair. Before you make a statement be sure to back it up especially on such a large scale and controversial issue.

    • hassan smith
      April 24, 2013 - 1:36 am | Permalink

      Bluewing, I couldn’t have said it better myself. Morals are declining rapidly. I’m not even allowed to think that homosexuality is wrong without being labeled as a bigot. Consensual incest, having sex with animals and pedophilia are being used as the basis for arguments. It really is alarming.

      70 years ago the majority of people would look down upon something like pre-marital sex, even though that is “natural”. No longer- that is the norm. Societies may be advancing, but morals are certainly headed in the opposite direction.

    • Jess
      July 6, 2013 - 9:19 am | Permalink

      I think everyone is untitled to their opinions. If homosexuality makes you uncomfortable then that’s okay. Although about 10% of people are gay, so you can’t exactly ignore it. I’ve heard a lot of people say that they are against gay marriage. But, what is marriage anyways? All it is is a promise to yourself, or to God if you are religious, that you will love someone. I don’t see what’s wrong with that. A lot of people also say that they think gays are unnatural and that gay sex is gross and wrong. Well I have to admit that I think straight sex is disgusting. Of course not all gays feel like this and I of course wouldn’t say that to anyone specifically and I will absolutely not discriminate or dislike straight people because of it. As long s no body is forcing me to have straight sex I could really care less if you like it or not. Also some people say that they dislike how gays “come out” or openly express their sexuality this is because in the world we live in, people automatically assume a person is straight. How would you feel (if you were straight) if everyone assumed you were gay? You would probably hate it. I don’t go screaming around town that I’m gay but if it comes up in conversation or if someone asks if I have a boyfriend I will tell them I’m gay. I also realize that some people would rather their children not to be exposed to gays. Personally I don’t understand why. Maybe they are afraid that they will “turn” gay, but my straight friends have been exposed to me and not one of them has “turned” gay because of it. Maybe homophobes are afraid of getting attention from a gay person. I get attention from guys all the time. I hate it. So I completely understand where you are coming from. But then again I also get attention from some girls that I’m not attracted to, and I’m not a big fan of that either. And I’m sure that everyone at one point or other has gotten attention from the sex they are usually attracted to, that was unwanted. You probably told them you weren’t interested and that was that. And if anything it’s a compliment that they were attracted to you in the first place! Some of you may also think that we gays are trying to “convert” everyone. Being gay is not a religion and although we wouldn’t mind if a few attractive straight people wanted to experiment, we certainty don’t want every one to be gay. And thank God they aren’t, so don’t flatter yourselves. No one is forcing you to conform to a gay life style so why should we be forced into a straight life style, or be kept quiet. Some of the world’s greatest people are believed to have been gay, like William Shakespeare, Alexander the Great, and Leonardo da Vinci. I dream of a day when a baby is born and isn’t expected to be straight, or gay, or even female or male. I want my kids, if I have any, to be able to grow up with not only old cartoon movies, but new ones of two princes falling in love or a prince deciding he is a princess. Love is love. We don’t need anymore hate in the world. :) Hope you live and love well.

  • Diva
    November 15, 2012 - 6:02 pm | Permalink

    hi. i just want to say that its nice to see that some people bring these questions up online. but things are getting better. there is a lot less hate now then there was 10 years ago. still we get really mean comments. but from personal experience, find your rock (or you’ll turn crazy). my mother was more accepting then anyone i know.

  • December 4, 2012 - 11:49 pm | Permalink

    I think its very interesting that obiously gay people will right comments to persade the majority of people who dislike gays. and there gay freinds will give it a thumbs up so its above all other comments so people will think the majority agrees with them but the truth is 80% of people are agaisnt gays of both genders. less judgementall toward girl gays because men are atracted. now if females had the more influential voice it would be diffrent but since this is a world of men we decide the outcome point is men dont like gay men. and gay men people will always be an outcast unless female gain power but tht wont happen by the way yes im agaisnt all gays its unatural and when they learn to look in the mirror and say im unatural ill be happy

  • Fred
    December 5, 2012 - 3:54 pm | Permalink

    Really good article! I like how you’ve rebutted each fallacy clearly and logically. I found the title of this post a bit misleading though – until I actually opened it, I thought you were arguing the other side. I was pleasantly surprised :).

  • December 13, 2012 - 10:44 pm | Permalink

    gays are hated because to many it is unnatural I feel that it is unnatural I am fine around gays just don’t act gay around me other wise I get angry due to the fact of the way I have grown up. I am friends with a gay person he’s fine in my view of a gay guy. I also feel that I have grown up thinking that everyone should love the opposite gender not the same but thats just my view on life so overall I think being gay is just a life choice and in my opinion a bad one but that’s my opinion and people have rights to decide for themselves.

  • JacobA
    December 18, 2012 - 12:50 pm | Permalink

    I to thank you for this article, I’m gay and I truly believe I was born this was. I am not going to live a lie and act straight because of fear, it helped me to read this. Thanks :)

  • December 26, 2012 - 1:41 pm | Permalink

    your views I admit are logical but truly gays and lesbians are seriously ill humans that go against nature. Do you see any other animals performing homosexuality? no. So by demonstration there is no reason why we should perform homosexual acts, because through science and religion we are animals and if other animals don’t do it why should we.
    max williams recently posted..What if those close to you are negative?

    • andrea
      January 6, 2013 - 4:10 pm | Permalink

      Max, First of all there are homosexual animals, you need to do some research and if you don’t like homosexuals then you don’t have to be around them.

    • Anton2387
      January 8, 2013 - 1:38 pm | Permalink

      Rahul. Amazing article and extremely poignant. I would make a point to clear up every fallacy about homosexuals being unclean or more prone to disease because it’s untrue. The sex that homosexuals practice is thought to be unclean because they are thought to use protection less often, but that is also false. Anyone who argues that homosexuals are evil or unclean and you don’t want them around for religious reasons, look in the mirror yourself and verify that you understand the teachings of the bible correctly. You know the book that preaches love and acceptance. Also, remember that the bible had polygamy, brother marrying sister. Cousins marrying. Murder done in revenge for theft, etc. Don’t look at the bible as a book to be followed literally. Look at it as a rubric and a lesson on what to do and what not to do. God intended for us to be respectful and love each other. Anyone who spouts hate does not understand the true purpose of the bible.

    • Jeremy
      February 22, 2013 - 9:46 pm | Permalink

      False, homosexuality has been found in 280 species.

    • scott
      May 6, 2013 - 4:52 am | Permalink

      Homosexual behavior in animals refers to the documented evidence of homosexual and bisexual behavior in various non-human species. Such behaviors include sexual activity, courtship, affection, pair bonding, and parenting among same-sex animal pairings. Homosexual behavior has been observed in close to 1,500 species, ranging from primates to gut worms, and is well documented for 500 of them.[1][2] The sexual behavior of non-human animals takes many different forms, even within the same species.

    • Equality is essential
      May 12, 2013 - 3:48 pm | Permalink

      Get your facts right before you state them outwards. Homosexuality has been found in many animals, but hatred has only been found in one.

  • plagued1635
    January 21, 2013 - 11:42 pm | Permalink

    I must say, I do hate most gay people. Ok, hate is a strong words, dislike? Let me explain because it has nothing to do with what was already mentioned in the article.

    I really dislike the strain to become the opposite sex. I can’t stand men who push their voice to a higher pitch to sound more feminine. Same goes for women who get neck tattoos and wear baggy basketball clothes and Air Jordans. I understand that people are born gay, but just because a guy is gay does he have to annoyingly act like a girl?

    Another thing I don’t like is the forward attitude. Always breeding to announce your sexual preferences is retarded. My girlfriend has a lesbian friend at work, that same friend is about to get my girlfriend to be single. I’ve checked texts and phone calls, she talks to the lesbian chick more than me. I saw texts from the lesbian talking about “I love you”, “I miss you”, “You’re my work wife” … It’s just odd and I’m literally about to leave my girl of 4 years because of this chick.

    Your article is ok, but out barely scratches the surface for me. I dislike homosexuals for a completely different reason.

    • Some thoughts
      January 29, 2013 - 7:11 pm | Permalink

      Your girlfriend with the lesbian friend…
      It sounds like she’s been cheating on you.
      My condolences. I wish there was something I could do to help or make you feel better, but unfortunately, if I was to offer it would be both impractical and very creepy.
      However, can you please, please do me a favour?
      I know you dislike how gay people try to imitate the opposite gender. At times, it exasperates me as well, but it’s their choice and I have no right to tell them what to do.
      But just sit down and think, and ask yourself whether having one relationship wrecked by someone of the LGBT community is enough to make you dislike the entire gay population.

    • Joey2121
      February 11, 2013 - 7:45 am | Permalink

      Plagued, your message is flawed for 3 reasons,
      1. That’s not all gay people, I’m gay and no one would be able to tell because I am one of the lowest voices in my school’s men’s choir, wear jeans everyday, always wear sweatshirts and never go out of my way to seem gay. Also, lesbians don’t necessarily act like men either, one of my best friends is a lesbian and I didn’t even know until a few months after she came out and she didn’t go out of her way to seem like a lesbian afterwards either.

      2. Again, I know plenty of gay people and *most* of them don’t emphasize over and over again that they’re gay(unless they just want the attention, positive or otherwise.

      3. Girls talk like that all the time, just because she’s a lesbian does NOT mean she is trying to be manipulative and get your girlfriend to break up with you. Oh, and FYI if you go through your girlfriend’s phone, maybe the problem is you. Go take a long, hard look in the mirror before you make your girlfriend’s best friend a scapegoat.

  • Angus Evans
    February 6, 2013 - 2:54 am | Permalink

    I don’t hate gays, but I hate what they do.

    Firstly, gay marriages shouldn’t exist. God was the one who created and defined marriage so if anyone should change it it must be God (and he hasn’t).

    Secondly, lots of people talk to me about “freedom of speech”. Whilst yes, gays can express their opinions it means that so can we.

    And lastly, God is not stupid. He made men and women for a reason. Not adam and steve. Adam and Eve.

    I think that God would want us to love people for who they are, and I strongly disagree with tactless homophobes trolling on internet forums.

    If your friend/parent smokes, you get angry not because you hate them but quite the opposite. Because you care about them. In the same way I don’t hate gays, I just hate what they do.

    • Andrew
      July 9, 2013 - 8:10 am | Permalink

      Angus, you need to stop and think for a moment. Why are you letting a book written more than 3,000 years ago, decide weather or not gay marriage is right or wrong. I’m not gay, I can promise you that, but I don’t need a book to tell me weather or not something is right. Just because it is the bible doesn’t mean anything. The bible was not written by God. The bible was written by a human, like you and me. But since you seem to believe the bible is the almighty answer to everything, then let me say this, God does not hate the sinner, but the sin. If one is willing to realize what he has done is wrong then God will accept them back into his kingdom.

  • Nick
    February 7, 2013 - 8:02 am | Permalink

    everyone has their own definition of nonsense, one cannot dictate what nonsense is to another. this applies to religion and general rights. i personally think homosexuals are nonsense, i “understand” it completely. love cannot be defined for another person either, its the same as nonsense. i think that man and woman were meant to continue the human race, ergo my definition of love between two individuals of the same gender looks like nonsense. what makes man and woman different other than testosterone and estrogen? physically? genitals. personality wise? none. It seems to me that being a homosexual is no more than a sick fetish (gross oversimplification) but why would a man automatically like ONLY men?
    genitals. i see it as a sexual desire than true love. good article by the way.

  • February 9, 2013 - 12:19 am | Permalink

    Why use the word “hate”? What does “hate” mean to you? I wouldn’t say I “hate” homosexuals, but I do not agree with their lifestyle choices. To be attracted to something is not morally wrong, but to exercise your CHOICE as to who you will engage in sexual relationships with can be morally wrong. Being a homosexual is not a choice, but acting on those feelings is a clear choice. I feel pedophiles who engage in sex acts with children are morally wrong. I feel that lesbians and gays who engage in sexual acts with others of the same sex are morally wrong. I feel that fathers and mothers who engage in sex acts with their consenting adult children are morally wrong. An immoral act doesn’t necessarily have to cause others “harm” to be considered immoral. So your true question is – what is morality. To me, morality is an unwritten human “code of conduct” which allows society to function as a successful society. Of course, different religions attempt to codify morality in their religious teachings – but how religions define morality is irrelevant to me. I’m not religious. So if morality is what allows society to function successfully – then to me homosexuality is immoral in our current society as it promotes the degradation of the family unit in many many ways.

    • rick92
      April 16, 2013 - 3:21 am | Permalink

      but dude, im not a pedophile, i just like guys. just because you’re straight doestn’t mean you’re gonna rape a little girl. c’mon, it’s between two consenting adults, and if they are happy together what is it any of your business really? it’s basically like me telling you, you should just never sexually interact with any chicks just because i think it’s morally wrong?

  • vicious
    February 12, 2013 - 10:48 pm | Permalink

    Of course I wouldn’t meddle in anyone else’s relationships but if I ever had children, I surely wouldn’t want THEM to be homosexual. They’re my children and it’s my responsibility to raise them the way I want as long as they become respectful, kind, and hard-working. I was brought up that way and I think that the strict atmosphere in my house actually improved my character. I don’t see harm in being against homosexuality as long as you don’t harm the homosexuals themselves.

  • Tom
    February 15, 2013 - 3:36 am | Permalink

    Its not so much that straight people hate gay people. We hate that they want to get married. Marriage is between a man and a woman… if all the gays wanted to get a domestic partnership in some field then straight people would be much more lenient. When gays want to go to a Church and make a mockery if religion (I’m sure y’all don’t intend it that way) its very aggravating. Just call it something else, do it somewhere else.

  • Josh
    March 4, 2013 - 3:53 am | Permalink

    Pity on those guys who are telling “God has set rules for Marriage” and “Nature dictates that for a species to be successful, male and female members must get together”. First of all God has not created set any rules. In the name of God, humans have set rules. The wrong rules should definitely be rectified. Secondly it is the Nature who has created gays to control population explosion and save this world. Homosexuals has been found in atleast 15000 species. This is also a fact. Whoever disapproves need to educate themselves in the true sense of the term.

  • Emily
    March 5, 2013 - 8:34 am | Permalink

    I find that these reasons are mostly invalid. Does anyone know that the bible also says that women have no rights. It says that men shouldn’t masturbate… have fun with that one. God tells us not to judge… if your reasoning is Christianity then, fail.
    Here is a wonderful list of dos and don’ts from the bible:
    1. Don’t drink alcohol on any day except for religious celebrations.
    This would mean only wine…
    2. Do not take a donkey from a man who can not see you take it.
    Seems legit.
    3. Do not lie for if you lie to someone, you lie to God and as God.
    4. Do not murder for if you murder you kill God and kill as God.
    5. You must obey the Lord and the ways of the Lord and worship no one before him.
    6. Women must not do as men do. While a man is working the women should be in her husband’s home preparing the house for his arrival and make a feast apon his arrival.
    Oh for fun…
    7. Men must not have uncleanliness because it is a sin. If he does, he must watch himself in the fountain outside with his sheets and must stay in the house for seven days after his uncleanliness and then, he must go to the temple and ask for forgiveness and to be cleaned.
    No masturbation, porn, thoughts of sex, thinking a married women is hot, having sex with a women of which you are not married to, you name it!
    8. When a woman is having her menstrual cycle, she must stay in her bed and drink only water and eat only bread. She is to use only white linens and is to bathe every night. After the seven days of uncleanliness, she is to remain there for another three days. When this is over, she is to bathe herself and her sheets and is to go to the temple and pray.
    Have a wonderful time doing this once a month ladies.

    There are so many more but, these are just a few.

  • Holly
    March 14, 2013 - 11:56 pm | Permalink

    Homosexual people set a bad example for children by glorifying their sexuality. Particularly the ‘flaming’ type. I do not want my children to be influenced into thinking that this is an OK way to behave. Personally, I’d like to have grandchildren and survive as a species. The more that gay is glorified, the more contagious of a fashion trend it becomes. I wish that all gays were people who practiced in private, like you say. Unfortunately, many like to ‘come out’ when really they should just stay in. It’s not that I dislike gay people, I just don’t want to see it. The same way I don’t want to see hedrosexual men running around announcing their appetite for women. I do not believe that people were born gay. I believe that homsexualty is a nurture related mental defect. Others don’t have to agree with me. I am entitled to my opinion the same as people are entitled to believing ‘gay is ok.’ Yes, I’ve know several gay people on a semi-intimate level. If your gay, please keep it to yourself. I don’t want my kids to see your behavior.

  • March 16, 2013 - 2:42 pm | Permalink

    Thank you. These points have helped me with my Religion Assessment. I understand some people hate and dislike gay, lesbians and trans gender people. But me personally i have no problem with them. I understand when a couple of gays or lesbians are out in public hugging, kissing, and saying ‘I love you” it can get weird and uncomfortable. I’ve been there sitting beside a couple doing that. It can be uncomfortable. But isn’t the same for us when we see a normal couple together doing the same thing? I know i feel uncomfortable around straight people when they do that. They are probably thinking the same thing as well when they see a straight couple together. As i said before I have absolutely no problem with them. Its good that they have the courage to go out in public and ignore the stares, criticism and hate. They have amazing courage and that’s rare. People just see them as an easy target because it gets to them easy. That’s not right. We are all human and we should be treated equally and fair. Its not right and i hate to see someone getting bullied, discriminated and pushed around just because they prefer and see something unique or interesting in the same gender. ballets like ballet, Jazz dancers like jazz. Just the same with them. They like the same gender.

  • April 19, 2013 - 3:18 am | Permalink

    The gay agenda supports gay interaction.

    Without its own sense of resource, and administrating legal representation, the gays would of never have gone as far as the have. There is a ‘war of worlds’ going on right now. There will always be good people not remotely interested in the gay lifestyle or their advances.

    There is a stigma against gays: that no amount of education will wipe from the ‘moral’ majority, the sense, that the Gay Lifestyle is immoral. We have spent the centuries cultivating the attributes of love and hardship into a manifestation of literature and art: the stem of literature, (except in a few cases), exemplifies our civilities in these matters between men and women.

    It’s a huge curve to believe that society at large will ever get it.

    Unfortunately, these divides will remain just that.

    Families that are heterosexual will continue to raise their children under the veil of what they believe is normal. There is no winning here. The only way success does come for homosexuals will be through the disambiguate trails that the Law presents, as well as what can be carved by legislation.

    It’s okay to be whatever you want to be.

    It’s the mixing that is volatile, and causes great concern to the many. While we can learn to just let anything be, the direct influence of consequence, makes us think about it in a personal way, and when it shows its ugly head, most of us just don’t want to deal with it.

    The reality of choice belongs to everyone.

    The world can still go on as ‘normal’ as long as people don’t kill each other over their beliefs. If you don’t like gays ‘fine’ that is a choice that’s made on preference.

    Showing a bias is not an unhealthy act. It is strictly human.

    The right to be what you are is also a ‘key signature’ for homosexuality: trying to win their rights and freedoms. While the majority still feels its immoral, the game plan for Gays and Lesbians will be challenged, by sometimes a cruel world. It’s the constant fight that will be the benefactor in achieving commonality.

    As long as there is Church, God and Fellowship, the odds are slim.

  • What Would Jesus Do?
    April 26, 2013 - 12:54 pm | Permalink

    Jesus was sent to the Earth to save all people. The Bible was not written to discuss social issues. It was written to show God’s love for his creation, and for his creation to want to love God enough to show compassion to “HIM” and to all people.

    In this regard, hatred is not what Jesus stands for. On the contrary. Jesus stands for showing unfailing love that makes people want to have a purposeful existence.

    How does this relate to Homosexuality? God cares more about how a person’s heart is circumsized more than who has the most “likes” or “friends.”

    If you are perfect, then judge everyone!

    If you have any, any faults. You are unclean to judge!

    No one has the right to judge but God.

    Therefore, relating to homosexuality, heterosexuality, bisexuality, etc., etc. ,etc., these are important to humans.

    Where your heart is, that is what is important to God. Do as Jesus would do!

    Science has shown that some people are born with traits. Homosexuality and Heterosexuality are traits.

    Remember, no one is perfect! Therefore, we all stumble in life! By hurting others, you are hurting yourself!

    Take a look at Adolf Hitler!

    The USA beat the NAZIS.

    Please understand. Power to you.

    Carry on people.

    The world will work with people that have good hearts!

  • bob
    April 30, 2013 - 7:29 am | Permalink

    What If Everyone Was Gay? What If OurParents Were Gay. You Wouldn’t Be Writing This Forum

  • May 1, 2013 - 6:15 pm | Permalink

    it would be rediculous to say that gay people raising kids isnt going to influence them being gay…..if being gay is so natural, firstly why cant they reproduce and secondly if everyone was gay, say good bye to humanity… potentially something that could kill us off.

    and lastly WTF do gays wanna get “married” for. marriage is a -religious- ceremony, and religion dosnt accept you. i wouldnt have a problem with an equivalent to marriage for gays but dont call it marriage
    raul recently posted..What if those close to you are negative?

  • Edwin
    May 8, 2013 - 9:52 pm | Permalink

    Interesting article, and comments;
    Well I gay, 12 years involved with a stunning guy and love him to bits.

    It was hard for both of us to come out, as a result of our families and friends.
    Things couldn’t have been better, we are now much closer to our family and our friends.

    One aspect is probably who you see in society, is being accepted as the example of the ‘culture’. Thus, people will see fem guys and think that all gay guys look like that .. Which we know is not true.

    There are a couple of maried ‘straight’ guys in our gym, fooling around with guys, being more accepted in society, as people only see what they’d like to see.

    For the ‘animal sex’ – I disagree, but again its about perceptions and how you were raised. Some people can’t stand a white girl having a black boy as her boyfriend .. If you were brought up in a more liberal family, it would have been more accepted by you?

    I am Christian and gay, but being rejected by our church based on my lifestyle. The church would prefer me to get married to a women, perhaps have ‘secret’ sex with men, as long as they don’t know about it ..

    I can’t imagine myself being a ‘happier’ person, I have all I ever wanted .. Why can’t eveyone live the life they choose for themselves?

  • Lily
    July 6, 2013 - 9:27 am | Permalink

    If you think the reason being gay is wrong is because a man and woman together is the right way to populate the world I have a reality check for you. We are already over populating the world. Maybe being gay, is nature’s way of controlling over population. Ever think of that?

    Have a nice day.

  • August 9, 2013 - 8:42 pm | Permalink

    Well you raised some interesting points.However how on earth would you rationally determine whether an animal were consenting to sex?If it were in distress,otherwise Ok?Just as long as both partyies seem to be enjoying it?As long as the animal had not been coerced by stroking, sweet talk and a nice bunch of grass?Sorry ,but I think that you carry your liberalism just to far.

  • Robert
    December 5, 2015 - 7:18 am | Permalink

    Well-written article, good sir! You really do gays and lesbians proper justice (I think) by showing just how wrong the haters are.

    I say allow gay marriage. It may never be openly accepted like straight marriage has been for millennia, but one can dream, right?

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