He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery. -Harold Wilson
The man who looks for security, even in the mind, is like a man who would chop off his limbs in order to have artificial ones which will give him no pain or trouble. -Henry Miller
Recently, some of my earlier fellow workers were congratulating each other for having completed half a decade in the same company. I was wondering what they were congratulating each other for. Most of them have never changed companies, probably not even changed projects of their own will. Is this an accomplishment? What is the accomplishment here? Not having been thrown out in the last 5 years? If that is so, it is as sad as it is funny. Why would you expect so low from yourself?
When I was in that company, I saw a lot of people who did not like being moved from their projects. They liked the comfort of the known and they liked being with their friends there. I bet most of them are still there, unless they have been pushed out. They would do anything and everything that the manager asked, they would keep him happy. Then the manager would change and they will start all over again, pleasing the new manager. They would learn a little here and a little there, then compare their progress within their circle of like folks. Needless to say they found themselves performing satisfactorily.
To just have been accepted by someone for a period is a very low accomplishment. What do you think of those needy, depressed ‘friends’ who keep trying to please everybody and never seem to have an opinion of their own? Are you any different when you try to please your employers?
We grow and evolve as human beings by learning from change. Most of these people will agree that they have lived better than their friends who didn’t leave the comfort of their cities, families and, consequently, never experienced the possibilities these people have. If you agree with this, why do you not let the process of learning continue? Life is fun and challenging if it is a constant learning process. Sameness is for the dead.
If you say that you are satisfied with the way things are, I will tell you that they won’t stay the same just because you do. There is no constant state in life. Either you are learning and growing, or you are slipping into a state of apathy and despair. You will not retain the same level of competence and confidence, you mind will start waning as a result of being subjected to the same inputs again and again. You will first get used to your current lifestyle and work, and then you will get dependent on it, so much so that separation from it will look like a nightmare. It will start looking like an integral part of you. If you think you are OK making this a part of your life since this is what you had always dreamt of, you are in for trouble. Your company and work are outside entities. When ever you tie your sense of self with an outside entity, you set your self up for despair and heartbreak, since what has come to be, will cease to exist. Your association will end someday, whether you like it or not. If you think you are prepared for it, you are fooling yourself. It is way better to recognize when your growth at a place is stagnating and then start looking for greater challenges, worthy of your present self.
Let go with love. Accept change and growth into your life. Running away from changes and growth is denial of life itself. Do you find your life boring and listless? Of course you do, when you close doors to new challenges and learning, what else do you expect? You buy some stuff here and you spend some money there, and then you expect these things to keep you happy. Well, best of luck with that.
Change colors your life. It seems threatening but that adds to its beauty, it becomes a challenge worthy of being conquered. It requires an accepting nature and willingness to learn and grow. It is not always fun but it gets better with time. Accepting change ensures lasting happiness and fun.
Change is anyhow inevitable. You can either deny it, look for security and sameness, and grumble later when it sweeps you off your feet and takes you into a new, unknown land. Or you can accept it and ride along with it and have fun!