In an earlier post on self suggestion, I had talked about positivity quotient and negativity quotient inside each one of us. The difference in these two quotients determines whether our experience of life is positive or negative. Our positivity quotient increases through positive inputs, eg. good advice from someone, inspiration from someone’s activities, meditation, company of motivating people etc. Similarly, our negativity quotient increases through negative inputs – arguments, jealousy, anger, blaming others for our problems etc. These inputs can come as circumstantial inputs(those that are out of our control) or as consciously created input.
It is the conscious input we will discuss in this post, we have little control over circumstantial input. Although it can be argued that, Law of Attraction and Subjective Reality define all inputs and experiences as self created, we will disregard them for this post.
Adding to your positivity quotient has a lot of short term and long term benefits. On a daily basis, it helps to keep you in a positive frame of mind, keeps your mood good through out the day, helps with making good decisions, makes you feel energized by your activities, helps to interact well with others, work along with others etc etc.
Long term benefits include a higher sense of well being and happiness, detachment from results and expectations, equanimity of countenance, improved productivity, improved relations, alignment with what you love… in general, a better, happier life.
Here are a few things you can do on a daily basis to add to your positivity quotient. These are small steps, but, if observed regularly, can lead to great results.
1. Find a purpose for your life. Call it whatever you will, the meaning of your life, the ultimate goal or the purpose. Nothing feels more uplifting than to seek out a worthy purpose for your life and work towards realizing it. Higher experiences, higher happiness flow out of following a higher purpose. Life becomes fun and adventurous when you have it. Every day becomes something you look forward to. A lot of questions that you found difficult to answer till now, will find very clear answers when you have a purpose to realize.
If you don’t have a big enough purpose, a big dream; life and it’s experiences become mundane, repeated and boring. And these negative feelings only increase with time.
2. Self suggestion. I have already talked about this before in this post . Basically, you set a time of the day to visualize achieving your goals. Imagine what you would do and how you would feel when you have achieved your goals. Do this everyday for a few minutes.
3. Meditation. Meditation calms your mind and brings your focus into the present moment. Done properly, it can make you observe your own feelings as an outside observer and feel. You feel the futility of unnecessary, negative feelings that pull you down, while developing a feeling of peace, contentment and happiness that uplifts you.
4. Seek positive company. One very beneficial step you can take is to get yourself into the company of forward looking, motivating and inspiring people. Too many of us want to improve in life but feel pulled down by the negativity and pessimism of those around us.
You will have to swallow this bitter pill if you want to improve in life. You might have to distance from long term friends and family for this. This does not mean that you have to leave your friends and family for ever or that you are selfish. This will be for everyone’s long term good, even their’s. When they see you doing better in life, you will become a good and motivating example for them to follow. They might blame you of selfishness and rudeness in the beginning but later, will come to you asking for advice.
5. Journal writing. This has also been discussed in a previous post . This requires you to find some time for yourself and analyse your day. It helps in thinking over things with a cool mind, after you have passed the heat of the moment. It helps you to realize what may require improvement. It’s very uplifting and a good problem solving tool too.
6. Read positive literature. This does not mean you have to devour book after book. Just take a book or blog that you find uplifting and motivating, and read a few pages every day. Just a single line or thought that strikes your imagination and gives you a good feeling, is enough.
7. Watch uplifting movies and soaps. Most of us like movies, I like them too. Become a little selective in what you watch. Seek out uplifting movies. Comedies, inspiring dramas are good. Action thrillers and mysteries that keep you on the edge are OK too. Horror movies, gory movies that show a lot of blood splattering, movies that show a dangerous world and the main characters as hapless victims, may better be avoided.
8. Help someone. Take sometime to help someone in a small way. It maybe someone you know, or a complete stranger. You may feel wary of it in the beginning but would love it for the good feeling you get later.
All together, this might look like a lot to do. But you can start with one thing that appeals the most to you. You can add others later, or find other ways that you find more helpful. Our experience of life is totally in our own hands, it’s up to each one of us to make it fun and worthwhile, or to let it slip into sadness, helplessness and boredom.
Let me know if you can think of something else, I will add it to this list.